Almost Newlyweds

I am a newlywed – for the 3rd time. My wife Janet is on her first. It occurred to me that it might be fun if I documented some of our adventures. I’m American; born and raised in Philly; living in Portland, Oregon for the past forty years. Janet has no conception of what forty years is. She’s from Alcoy, Cebu in the Philippines. Spent the last five years working and going to college in Maasin City, Leyte. She graduated – I didn’t. There’s one stereotype busted!

My friends in Fil-Am marriages talk about the differences in culture, language, religion, and just life view. But talk is cheap and conclusions are tough to come by. But the stories are funny as hell.

So let’s get the elephant in the room out of the way, shall we. I’m 61 and Janet is 26. So add age difference to the culture, language, religion, and life view differences. Also, she’s pretty hot; I’m pretty much not; so add that to the mix.

I’m a writer and sometimes funny. If you’re David Sedaris they call you a humorist; me they call a wiseass. So that’ll be my view in this blog. Sure I’ll be informative from time to time; but mostly entertaining. Join in!

6 thoughts on “Almost Newlyweds”

  1. I will follow your blog. By the way – my Asawa is also from Cebu…Dalaguete. Not so far from Alcoy. We decided to move here to Philippines for more than 2 years ago, now we live not so far from Angeles City, but will build a house in cebu in a not so far future, where we have some land. The best decision i ever made was to move here permanently. I’m from Denmark and we lived there for about 15 years, now i am retired and enjoy life here in Philippines

    1. Thanks, Axel. You’re an early adopter. And yes Dalaguete is close to Alcoy. It’s where the family has to go for any major shopping. They’re all excited that a mall is opening there soon (Robinson’s?).

      Good luck on building your home in Cebu. I am envious!

  2. Fun concept for a blog and a terrific way to continue sharpening your writing chops daily. I certainly can always use a chuckle.
    Sign me up.

  3. I, unfortunately, am on the other end of my Philippines life. I have lived mostly in the Philippines for about 20 years, at one time I felt that I always would. My life was never so good as when I lived in rural Philippines and had several Filipino friends who were very good in English. I never “belonged” but I did have a “place”.

    I really messed up my first marriage in the Philippines, but today I am married to a wonderful woman, superior to me in so many ways. I did leverage a small social security income and access to the US to marry far above my station. I am totally in love, but as a divorced man, I take professed love with a grain of salt from others. I have 3 way smart kids with her and it smarts with me when people refer to me as their “grandpa”, but my age does not impair universal feelings and expressions of love from all in my family. I am a whole lot more skilled father the 3rd time around.

    She is 36 and I am 63. She is still really sexy, looks 22, and has men asking her daily at her job (customers) if she is single. I am fat, mentally ill, and have cancer. She seems not to care.

    Today I am living in Idaho, farming mostly. I could not stay in the Philippines because of the poor educational choices available to me for my children, the existence of fake medicines and doctors with independent attitudes, and my soon coming death and what that would mean to my Filipina alone in the Philippines without reliable income.

    My time in the Philippines has been overall positive and personally rewarding. I am known by many for harsh criticism of some aspects of Filipino life/culture, I wish I were not judged by simply that. But I only voiced these criticisms after I learned to relate to Filipinos. When I first came there I did not care, I took Filipino advise, “let them be”. But after becoming friends, learning the language, living inside so many families I cry inside from the suffering that Filipinos impose on Filipinos. I remember how naive so many foreigners were/are and how pitilessly some were treated. Hopefully listening to me will make some forewarned and thus forearmed. If so warned, freer to share the very good life that can be had inside Filipino culture.

    1. Tommy – Sounds like you’ve had a great life and fine family. I will send you whatever positive thoughts and prayers I can and hope you still have more years with your asawa.

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