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Family History (or Is It Herstory)

I have been into my family genealogy for the past several weeks, using a popular online portal. I’ll get into some of the why’s and wherefores in a minute.

The portal is amazing at linking you to obscure family members using billions of records worldwide. And once you find one family member, that opens the door to dozens of others. Yesterday I was fooling around on the portal, found a new family member (a cousin of a cousin of a cousin), looked at his birth and death dates and thought “died in his 30s. Didn’t live too long.” Then I looked at cause of death. This isn’t filled out that often but sometimes you can see “cancer” or “heart attack” – the usual. But this time the cause of death field listed “Nazi Victim.” The year was 1940 and this obscure relative who lived in Poland was a holocaust victim. Before I was done I found several other holocaust victim relatives. I didn’t know how or what to think. Of course I had always known that I must have had distant relatives that died at the hands of the Nazis, but they were no one I knew or anyone in our American family knew.

This was not the reason I went down the genealogy rat hole.

Like many Americans with immigrant families just a couple generations old I knew nothing about my past. Relatives only talked about their American lives and American relatives. I knew that my maternal Grandfather was born in England and his family came to the US when he was a baby. For 50 years, when asked, I told people I was one quarter English, since that was all I knew.

Not many years ago I said this very fact to my Aunt, the last real keeper of the family history. She laughed and I bristled and said. “Well, he was born in England, so…” “Yes, David” she replied. “He was born in England. Do you know why?” I shook my head. “At the turn of the century Jews escaping Russia and Eastern Europe traveled West and England was the jumping off point to go to America.” There went my fantasy of being a descendant of an English Lord.

My Grandfathers Ain’t What I Thought They Were: I always liked my paternal grandfather’s name – Jack. It was short and sweet and kinda tough – just like he was. Janet and I talked often that if we ever had a boy, we’d name him Jack. Imagine my surprise to see the 1910 census (Jack was born in 1899) and see the family listed with 11 year old Jacob. Other documents of that era also listed him as Jacob. By the 1920 census he was Jack and would never again be referred to as anything else.

My maternal grandfather (the English Lord) was named Sol Criss. Even though I thought of Solomon, no one ever referred to him as anything but Sol. As a kid I speculated that it might have come from the Spanish word meaning sun. After all, he was an English Lord, why not have a cool Spanish name. In the 1910 US census, when he was 7, there it was – Solomon. Other early documents referred to Salomon. After all the family spoke Yiddish, so the English spelling wasn’t consistent. But just like Jack, by early adulthood he was Sol and never anything else. Jack and Sol were Americans, damn it – not Jacob and Solomon.

I found that many of those old relatives changed their names, no doubt to sound more American and less Jewish. We kids all barely knew but loved our Uncle Charlie. He was my Great Uncle and spent most of his adult life working with The Three Stooges. The adults in the family considered him the Black Sheep, but we kids loved the name, Uncle Charlie, and he flat out had the coolest job in the world. Imagine my disappointment at reading the 1900 and 1910 US census and seeing that his name was actually Meyer.

My Great Uncle on my maternal side – Sol Criss’s brother, was named Hyman Francis Criss; my mother called him Uncle Hymie. By the time he got to New York and became a fairly famous New York artist, he was Francis Criss. Not many famous artists named Uncle Hymie I guess.

So why did I go down this rat hole? I’m frankly not really sure. Like most kids I couldn’t have cared less about the past or relatives from far away places who were dead and gone. By the time I was a 20-something adult and kinda interested many of those adults had died, including my mother and grandparents. Once in a while I would travel across the country and see my aunt and uncle; the same aunt who schooled me on why I didn’t have an English Lord grandfather. She would show me pictures and throw out a million names but none of it stuck.

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Now I live in the Philippines where family is the most important thing there is and am married to Janet with her large and close family. And sometimes I feel I have no family. Of course that’s not true. I have a sister and a couple children and two ex-wives. My aunt is still alive and well into her 90s. And there are some cousins. I see a couple of them on Facebook. They’re getting older lol. There’s a younger generation but I know little about them. So I started this process to find out whatever I could find out.

I traced both sides of my family back to my great great grandparents. I found the 1901 English Census listing the Criss family (before Sol was born) waiting to go to America, which they would do two years later.

Other takeaways. All 8 of my great grandparents were born in Russia, or what was then called the Russian Empire. Apparently it wasn’t just little Sol who was trying to escape the pogroms.

People back then got married early – sometimes really early. And they had boatloads of kids. Grandfather Jack was one of 8 children and Grandfather Sol one of 7. In fact Sol’s father had a child fairly late in life; I guess it runs in the family. And BTW, he lived till 95- so I’ve got that to look forward to!

I also found some inlaws from the 19th century who I am guessing were Mormons since they lived in Utah and Idaho, and had a bunch of marriages and more children than you can count.

I’ve traced some branches of the family back to the 18th century and am still hopeful to find Weisbords (although it’s unlikely they were spelled that way) back to Russia.

So the upshot of this is I do have a family. And 100 years from now when descendants look me up and see my history they’ll wonder – how the hell did he end up in the Philippines!

Flying the Confederate Flag in the Philippines

To quote that radical leftist, Richard Nixon, “Let me make one thing perfectly clear.” I am a card carrying liberal, though this week perhaps I have misplaced my card. (Update: I am no longer carrying that card.) I say that because I don’t agree with the current nuttiness over banning the sale of the Confederate Flag. Bare with me here because I am going to try to make my case, all the while bringing it back to being married to a Filipina, which ought to be quite a stretch.

I have been thinking about this for the week or two the issue’s been raging, and finally knew I had to speak out when yesterday TV Land canceled reruns of The Dukes of Hazzard because the Duke boys’ iconic car, The General Lee, had a Confederate flag painted on the roof. I mean the show has been out of production for 35 freaking years. It’s been in daily reruns for that entire time. It never got axed despite some logical reasons that it ought to have been: namely, that it was one of the dumbest shows ever to grace the airways; because it’s villain was actually named (I kid you not) Boss Hogg; and because the show’s hottie, Catherine Bach, is now as old and wrinkled as – well me. The corpse, on life support for 35 years, finally had its plugged pulled based on a paint job.

The corpse, on life support for 35 years, finally had its plugged pulled based on a paint job.

For godsakes, Mattel pulled The General Lee toys off the shelves. Pretty impressive that a toy based on a show on the air when the kids’ grandparents were young is still a hot seller. Lot of racist kids out there, I suppose.

Now, I have no love for the South, whether of the modern or good old boy variety. Frankly I’ve only been there a few times. The first time was when I was in college. We drove to Miami on spring break, a right of passage taken by most east coast college students at least once. It was the 70s and long haired and bearded, a car full of us arrived at the Florida state border where we stopped at an inspection station.

I was driving. The guy in the booth gave me a long look. “Where you boys from?” he drawled.

“New York,” I answered brightly.

“Figures.”

Welcome to the South.

I just tell this story to make the point that I have no innate love for that part of the country. I am sure as hell not dying to re-visit South Beach or check out where Forrest Gump grew up in Alabama. I have a very good friend with property 40 miles outside of Tampa that he intends to retire on. He was actually nice enough to wonder whether I would like to retire there as well. Now, as I say he’s a great guy, so I don’t dare tell him the truth; that I would rather retire six feet underground than outside of Tampa.

But that doesn’t mean I’m in favor of banning the Confederate flag.

My reasons aren’t that complicated and have nothing to do with the First Amendment. If people want to get around that pesky Bill of Rights or even repeal the amendment, what do I care. I am old and cranky and will say what I feel like saying anyway.

Frankly, this flag crap is just a substitute for what we (and I definitely include me in this) would really like to do – take away the guns, not the flags. Sounds like a new slogan for the NRA: “Give up your flags, not your guns.” Because that’s the real issue. We can’t get the guns that actually killed those 9 people in that Southern black church. So let’s feel good, instead of impotent, by getting the flag, or in the case of the Dukes, the car.

I am sure that some people who know me might find my stance a bit strange. As a Jew, born post-WW2, wouldn’t I be offended by someone flying a Swastika, you might ask? Nope. I would be happy to have every anti-Semite fly such a banner. It’s no different from holding your hand up when the teacher asks, “Are you an idiot?”

You all know the story of Passover, right? Ok, maybe not. Each Jew in Egypt marked his door so that the Angel of Death would – you guessed it – pass over that house and kill only the Egyptian first born. Hey, it’s not called the Old Testament for nothing.

BTW, don’t get me wrong. I am not speculating that every Southerner that owns a Confederate Flag is a racist. On the contrary, my guess is that Daisy Duke, lying on top of the General Lee in the above picture, was an equal opportunity gal.

But let’s assume for the sake of argument that every cracker that owns a Confederate flag is a dyed in the wool racist. Good. Now we know who they all are.

I simply don’t understand the basic idea here. Do we actually believe that if you get rid of the symbol or ban the utterance of certain words that you ban the thought? Or more importantly if you could in some magical way ban the thought, would you prevent the horrific actions based on that thought? Hmmm…perhaps you can – it certainly worked in 1984 and Brave New World. OK, on 2nd thought maybe it didn’t.

I am on a few too many forums and you would be amazed at how many racists and anti-Semites there are, who speak matter of factly about their views on blacks, Jews, gays and every other group. They do that because, morons that they are, they believe that their anonymous user name, Lynchemall, makes them – well, anonymous. Apparently they haven’t heard of IP addresses.

So by all means get on the Internet and spit our your views or fly the Confederate flag and hang Hitler’s portrait in your living room. Next time the Angel of Death comes, she won’t be passing over your place.

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Part of this debate is our innate notion that people act rationally. Many don’t. There’s a great scene in Schindler’s List where the women are in their barracks discussing the rumor that Jews are being sent to camps and gassed. The women refuse to believe it. One woman says that it makes no sense since Jews are essential workers for the German war effort. “You don’t kill your workforce.” This is the way a rational person thinks. But hatred and murder are not rational.

So one irrational person thinks he can change the world by killing black people. The other irrational person thinks he can change the world by banning the first guy’s flag. And BTW, there are millions of people living today who still do not believe the Holocaust even happened because – it sounds so irrational.

So how does this all relate to the Philippines and Filipina wives? I have written about this before. Filipinos aren’t politically correct in the way that we are. If you ask the average Filipina what she thinks of say, Japanese and Koreans, she will probably tell you in no uncertain terms that she doesn’t much like them. The Japanese occupied the Philippines during WW2 and even though Janet and her peers barely know what WW2 was they know what the Japanese did and don’t like them.

And Korean tourists? Don’t get a Filipina started on them.

When Janet arrived here two years ago I was sometimes shocked, though frankly admired, her unvarnished opinions. But it scared me. I encouraged her to be careful about what she shared and with whom and tried to explain the sensitivities of some Americans. In those two years she hasn’t had any problems and she doesn’t censor herself. I am not sure how she gets away with it. She tells her co-workers directly when their work efforts leave something to be desired. OK, she does the same thing to her husband. The co-workers still like her; the husband still loves her.

What we in the West call prejudice or discrimination exists and is open and above board in the Philippines. Go into Ayala Mall and see how many clerks you find over 30; none. And it’s completely legal. Same with flight attendants. Janet says that in the Philippines, “These people with things in their nose who look like a goat cannot get hired in food service. Filipinos don’t want them serving food.” So, many forms of prejudice are accepted in the Philippines. I have mixed feelings about it but frankly, when I want a Coke on a flight this is a pretty nice thing.

BTW, Janet has become well aware that there are Americans who don’t like Filipinos or Asians in general. And there are certainly Americans who may judge her based on assumptions they make about our age difference. She has no problem with it, believing that people have the right to their own opinions, as long as they’re respectful to her personally (and God help them if they’re not – lol! ).

Maybe there’s something to this tell the truth business.

But just in case the truthful communication between groups doesn’t work – let’s stop giving everyone guns.

P.S. Let me be clear once more that while I have nothing against the existence of the Confederate flag, I am against it being flown at a State House, which is supposed to represent all people.

PPS. I just noticed that golfer Bubba Watson, who owns one of the original General Lees is going to paint over the Confederate Flag. I guess this genius, who paid $110,000 for the car a few years ago, didn’t notice the offensive flag covering the car’s roof when he worshipped it on TV or when he bought it. Apparently there is a reason he’s called Bubba 🙂