My PI Cancer Adventure – Part 3

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We returned to the doctor’s office three days later to have the bandages replaced. I had thought plenty about whether I was ready to look at the results, knowing it would be swollen and nasty looking.

Surprisingly it was not that bad. OK, it was bad but not as bad as my crazy brain was fantasising. After the doctor replaced the giant bandage with a more modest one I looked like Jack Nicholson in Chinatown. In fact I jokingly mentioned the reference to the doctor, who admitted she was not familiar with the movie but would watch it.

After the bandage change she wrote and handed me a quick order. “After about a month when the surgery has heeled I want a CT Scan and an MRI. Even though we got all the cancer, spread is possible.” I freaked and saw my life flash before me. I went to the darkest place.

The next couple of days I spent sleepless nights and Janet wonderfully tried to calm me down and said “we’ll get through this.” I was planning the funeral.

My mind has always been strong or so I’ve told myself. But this week my rational mind had come apart. It started the day of the surgery when the doctor showed me the photo of my nose. I literally thought “there is a giant hole in my nose going all the way through. Hole in the nose plus CT scan plus MRI means the end.” I thought this completely and believed it absolutely.

It was a couple days before I could express this to Janet. “No – there wasn’t a hole in your nose,” she said confused. “Yes they dug but did not through it. Go look.” She dragged me to the mirror. “Feel inside – they didn’t go all the way through.” It took a lot of convincing because I was sure of what I saw. But finally I was convinced and realized that my mind had made it up and I was incapable of expressing what I thought I saw. All I could say at the time to my doctor and Janet was, “OMG is that my nose?” “Well of course it was your nose,” Janet said. “Whose nose was it?”

Once I realized that my mind had fooled me, I saw that I had taken everything to the darkest place possible. OK, this is sort of my nature but never like this. Part of it is that I have been so healthy with literally nothing major and very little minor ever occurring in my 68 years that the shock of something serious made me more than a little crazy.

So it took two days for me to decide, ‘maybe it’s not the end yet.’ Sounds crazy and it is but for nearly 48 hours I thought this completely. I came to this changed realization just in time for us to arrange to return to Negros Oriental.

We got up Monday morning and tried to perform what we needed to do to leave Manila and return home. We found the local Barangay, the one nearest the hotel, and got a Barangay clearance. We proceeded to the City Hall and submitted documents for the medical clearance. This included a certification from my doctor as to what surgery had been performed and that I could travel. It also included negative swab tests for both of us.

Unfortunately I had done my swab test the day before the surgery, so technically that was a day or two too early for the clearance. I neither wanted to stick something way up my nose again nor could we afford the day another test and results would take. Janet asked (begged) for a special consideration. I pointed to the giant Jack Nicholson bandage on my nose and they agreed.

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However we were told that the police clearance could take 2-3 days. We took the Barangay clearance and medical clearance to the police station. Again Janet begged, saying we needed the police clearance that day in order to return home. I realized that in this crazy age begging is an important skill. She pointed to me and said “cancer,” I did my best to look pathetic, and they agreed. Within a half hour we had the police clearance.

Now, we could send all that documentation to Valencia and get permission to return. At the same time we asked for permission for me to quarantine at home. This is rare and unusual but we needed to try. We attached my doctor’s letter and to my pleasant surprise they agreed – contingent on a check of our home. “But where will Mrs. Weisbord quarantine?” they asked. “No no. I need her to quarantine with me. She is taking care of me,” which was certainly completely true.

Let me take this moment to state the obvious; that Janet has been incredible throughout all of this. If I ever made a smart move in my life it was marrying her. She stuck by me completely, helped in every way possible and remained a ray of sunshine when all I saw was the blackest of clouds. I love her more than ever!

Let me take another moment to describe the Covid response in Manila. Not only are face masks ubiquitous, so are face shields. You simply can’t enter anywhere without both. This included our hotel. And it seemed like most people complied though of course often the faceshield was propped up on people’s forehead.

Communication is nearly impossible. You have a mask and faceshield on and so does the other person. And there’s a good chance the other person is behind a sheet of plastic. At 68 with poor hearing I yelled “what?” a lot. Trying to communicate important information, such as surgical stuff or getting back home details was an effort in frustration. No wonder most people just use their phone to text or IM.

Signs throughout Manila encourage people to do the right thing. “Mask is the new smile,” one read. Yet the Filipino people are resilient and they seem to manage. Interesting that nearly everyone in Manila was aware that Negros “was strict” because we still maintain a 14 day quarantine. The quarantine in Negros is strict but the faceshield orders – not quite as strict.

In addition, as our 11 days in Manila progressed, more and more locations required a contact tracing app to enter. This was annoying but there was no choice. I know that a few paranoid people speculated at one point that the purpose of the Covid vaccine was to implant a tracking chip into everyone. How ridiculous – there is no need. All they need to do is track your smart phone and I worry that it will never end.

On the positive side, in addition to lots of mall shopping for both of us we ate great. The restaurants at the Shangri-la are excellent and the mall and surrounding areas had dozens of options. In additional I got New York pizza at SBarro. Now back in the US no one would consider SBarro to be excellent New York style pizza but for me it was close enough. In addition, I got to Subway and Wendys to complete the junk food trifecta.

Three days later we were back at the doctor’s office to remove the stitches. She removed the stitches and the truth be told, while there’s lots of healing left to go, the nose did not look that bad.

And the hits keep coming: She gave me my final results, confirming that all the cancer had been removed but there were cancer cells discovered that needed addressing. So after the nose heals in about a month I will need a round of radiation as a precaution.

But the best news within a series of difficult news events is that the City of Valencia gave us permission to quarantine at home. We’re homeward bound and I can’t wait!

Clearly 3 parts to this saga is not enough.

24 thoughts on “My PI Cancer Adventure – Part 3”

  1. Thanks for telling us your story. You are a good writer. I had undergone a major surgery myself there in the states (2001) and wanted to write my own story or experience but never got to it because I was busy trying to put my life back in order and went back to work right away per my physician’s advice.
    I am so glad you have a very good and supporting wife. Treasure her more. My husband and kids were very supportive of me and took care of me while I was down after surgery. Family matters so much and our faith and trust in God, Jesus Christ.
    Take care. We are looking forward to reading more of your adventures and experiences.

    Priscilla (now retired and lives in Sibulan).

  2. I have not read your blog before, but I enjoy your straightforward writing style, and I appreciated you sharing the information. Best wishes for your continued recovery.

  3. Dave

    Clearly you are married to an Angel.

    Here’s to a speedy recovery and a clean scan in four weeks.

    Warm Regards,

    Reed

  4. Thank you for your journey. I will be moving to PI to be with my family. I am thankful fo all you have shared with us.

    Heal well, be safe and enjoy a good life.

  5. Thank you for sharing your personal journey.

    I will be moving to the Philippines to be with my family. I am happy you have Janet. You are blessed.

    I am thankful for all you have shared with us.

    Heal well, be safe and enjoy a good life.

    God bless you both.

  6. Hey Dave,
    What adventures! Glad to hear everything will turn out right. Even though you paid through the nose (lol, pun intended), I bet you are grateful for all of it, most especially your wonderful wife!

  7. That was fascinating to read, because I’ve had SCC and also spent alot of time in Manila (but not with all those travel hassles…ugh!!). As far as SSC, I was surprised (upon my first reading) by your serious/psychological reaction , because SSC is usually not very serious for most people and it’s the “best” of the skin cancers to have (i think i’m remembering this right…??). But after re-reading, I guess the scary part was when the derm.doc. said it might not be 100% out (during the first attempt)…and possibly, it’s just more scary overall having to do that in Phils. instead of USA. Anyway, you’ll be fine. I had SSC on my ear…but didn’t do the Mohs surgery….my derm.doc. just use electro-cauterization….though I think i had the option of doing Mohs….

    1. Glad you enjoyed. My lack of experience certainly makes it scary. But of course also the need for a round of radiation in a month and the doctor talking matter of factly about the possibility of spread scared the hell out of me. And the doctor did also say that in general skin cancers of the face have a higher rate of spread than other skin cancers. No, I don’t believe where I had the procedure had anything to do with it, other than how difficult many things are now with the pandemic.

      1. I never came across that face-spread-higher-rate phenomenon when I was reading alot about SCC five years ago, but she might know more than me about that. I did see a few comments that skin cancer raises the risk of cancer (of any type)..but when I asked a few derm-docs and other doctors about that…they weren’t sure what that actually means and it’s probably not accurate. Anyway, whenever I look for derm..ists in USA (every few years), it always takes hours and hours of phone calls to find an available one in the near future…most have no openings for at least a month, usually even longer…a real shortage. As far as Manila, I only saw one derm-ist about 5 years ago….in that clinic in Robinsons Place (malate)…for a minor issue…a nice same day appointment. Good luck with all the travel/hotel hassles!! during the next visit. (Your story reminds me of being panicked one night in Lima, Peru when I couldn’t find any available hotels online,…for the next day…..)…..and it reminds me of a youtube video a guy did a few months ago in Cebu…where he was ordered to leave his hotel within a few days due to the pandemic, but no other hotels were available…..but he finally found one that accepted guests (by law, I think).

        1. In Dumaguete there are 2 that I know of and they are both quite busy, but once you are a client is is much easier. As to the other issue I have to assume that like other cancers spread is a concern, which is the reason why I have been told to have a CT and MRI once I am healed. While the odds are smaller SCC can metastasize and form nodules elsewhere.

  8. I’ve always said that “Patience is a virtue that is perfected while living in the Philippines.” That has never been more true with illogical Covid restrictions and policies in place. Kudos to Janet for keeping you sane.

    1. I see no more logic to the policies in the US or Australia (where they currently are having round 4 of lockdowns) or most other 1st world countries. Frankly I think it has been worse in the US. All that said it is maddening sometimes here.

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